I am Impacted by Someone Else’s Gambling

I am an affected other

You don’t have to carry this on your own

If someone else’s gambling is affecting your life, it can feel exhausting, confusing and isolating.

You might be:

• Constantly worried about money
• Covering up or trying to manage someone else’s behaviour
• Feeling anxious, angry, or overwhelmed
• Losing sleep or struggling to cope day to day
• Unsure where to turn, or whether this “counts” as something you can get help for

Whether it’s a partner, ex-partner, parent, child, or someone close to you, their gambling can have a real impact on you.

You deserve support too.

This space is for you

At thrivin’ together, we support women who are affected by someone else’s gambling.

That includes:

• Partners and ex-partners
• Mothers, daughters and sisters
• Friends and carers
• Women supporting someone in recovery
• Women still living with active gambling harm in their lives

You don’t need a label or a diagnosis.

If this is affecting you, you are welcome here.

How it can feel

Women we support often describe:

• Feeling responsible for fixing things
• Hiding what’s happening from others
• Financial stress or loss of control
• Being emotionally drained or “on edge”
• Not recognising themselves anymore

Some women also experience:

• Control or coercion linked to money
• Relationship breakdown
• Loneliness and stigma

These experiences are more common than you might think but they’re rarely talked about.

How we can support you

We offer a safe, women-only space where you can talk openly, without judgement.

Peer support groups

Connect with other women who understand what you’re going through.
No pressure, no expectation — just space to be heard.

One-to-one support

If you’d prefer to talk privately, we offer 1:1 support at your pace.

A space that understands

Our team and community have lived experience. We won’t ask you to explain everything – we get it.

You don’t have to wait for things to get worse

pYou might be wondering:

• “Is it bad enough?”
• “Should I be coping better?”
• “What if nothing changes?”

You don’t need to have all the answers.
You don’t need to be in crisis.

If it’s affecting you, that’s enough.

A space where you can be yourself

We are committed to creating a space where all women feel safe and included.

We welcome:

• LGBTQ+ women, including lesbian and bisexual women
• Women later in life who may feel overlooked
• Women from all backgrounds and communities who may not feel represented

You will be met with respect, understanding and care.

Take the first step

We know reaching out can feel difficult – especially when you’ve been carrying things alone.

We’ll meet you where you are.

We won’t tell you what to do. We’re here to listen, support, and walk alongside you.

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Blocking, Self Exclusion and Limiting Gambling Ads online

It’s important to know there are many ways you can stop or limit gambling to help feel more in control. We recommend that loved ones of gamblers sign up to GamStop and Gamban to reduce the risk of their details being used. Please note you cannot sign someone else up to these services without their consent.

Gambling Blocking, Software Blockers & Self-Exclusion
Free multi operator and national self-exclusion schemes
Everything You Need to Know About Bank Gambling Blocks – GamCare
How To Limit & Block Gambling Ads Online – GambleAware

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Financial Support

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Criminal Justice Support

Support is available to assist individuals who have resorted to crime to fund their gambling. 

Criminal Justice Support – GamLEARN

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Resources for Affected Others

Affected Other video Victorian Responsible Gambling Foundation Headward blog for gamblers in recovery & affected others

Abusive Behaviour Support & Legal Advice Surviving Economic Abuse (SEA) Women’s Aid Rights of Women How to check what devices are linked to your mobile account How to secure your tech

Cultural Diversity Do it for her short film by Gambling Harms UK Breaking the Silence in South East Asian Communities animation from Beacon Counselling Trust and ARA

Financial Support StepChange Money Advice Plus National Debt Line Business Debt Advice Line Financial Support Line – Surviving Economic Abuse

Suicide Organisations to reach out to  Suicide & Co

Eating Disorder, Self Harm and Trauma Beat Help and support including a directory of local support NHS List of support for Self Harm Treatment options in relation to Trauma

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